You do you, boo boo

Whew!  It’s been a minute since I wrote. I’m sitting here, doom scrolling, listening to Edith Piaf and this thought pops into my head….

46 years on….what can I tell you that I’ve learned?

Well, little white lies aren’t bad if it’s not hurting them and is protecting you.  Maybe some things don’t need to be out there if they are inconsequential to others and that person means something to you.  But you do need to understand what they might deem inconsequential before you act or hold back.

That being said…Be true. Be honest.  Doesn’t always have to be brutal though. Read the room.  If someone is hurting, maybe telling them a down-and-out honest response might not be apropos at that time.  It’s one thing to be you. It’s another to be an asshole, even if you don’t believe you’re being that way.  Compassion goes a long way.

Own your shit or people will not believe you.  Little disclaimer though – it could backfire on you in the long run.  It’s a very tricky chess match.  It shouldn’t be one, but it is.

Fake it ‘til you make it can’t be applied to your whole life.  It’s one thing to fake a skill as you actually learn how to acquire it.  But to use that attitude in every aspect of your life is quite overwhelming. For you and those around you.

You know what else can be overwhelming?  Constant, emphatic bravado.  Know and allow others to know what you are good at. But no one is good at EVERYTHING. Listen to Kendrick – Be humble. Sit down.  This is a good reason for relationships, whether they are friendly or familial or romantic.  Everyone brings something to the table to take things to great levels. Complimentary skills. one example – The boy cooks exceptional meals, and I clean like crazy. Yin and Yang.

Life is hard but you will get through it. Circumstances fucking suck at times, but if you got through one, you can get through another.  Remember that.

Patience is a virtue. No, I haven’t acquired that yet.  Nor have I adhered to a true, 100%, don’t give a fuck mindset.  I try.  It doesn’t always stick.

Mental walls, no matter how many times your therapist tells you otherwise, are not always bad.  They help with the don’t give a fuck mindset, even if it’s temporary, long or short term.

The thing I haven’t learned?  Are you putting up with things for a reason or are you accepting and living your life otherwise?  I fear it’ll be very late in life before I learn that one.

I understand my lesson paragraphs seem janky, but this is my rapid-fire approach. And life is janky, no matter what. And, yes, I have specific instances in my head as I write this.

If you know this stuff already and you’re, like, 22 years old? Well, good for you!  I mean it.  Some of us are really late bloomers at things.

No matter what, you do you, boo boo.  One day it’ll all come together.  Hopefully.

~ S