I was talking to my husband just a little while ago, when I almost said out loud to him “I saw my dad today.” Which, as you all know, is impossible. I don’t know why the thought popped up in my head, considering I didn’t even see anyone resembling him today. I’ve thought about him – it’s hard not to these days. But that’s okay.
I ended up telling him my thought anyway, for no reason. It kind of brought me down and I wanted to have some context, possibly to explain, in case he noticed. My eyes started to tear up but I couldn’t let myself cry. My body shook a bit, but I just couldn’t release it. In the past 3 1/2 weeks, I’ve wondered if my medications are keeping me from letting it all go. I’m not trying to prove anything to anyone by having that agonizing, gut-wrenching, heart-breaking, seizure-like cry. I want it for me. Yes, I’m being selfish, but I need this. Is it really the meds keeping me from it?
No, I’m not going to go off my medications just for that. I know I need them to keep me level. But isn’t there some kind of loophole for me to go through to achieve what I want? Let me hide in my closet, with a wad of tissues and no one around so I can just have it out with myself. This is part of my grieving process.